What inspired you to write your book The Holy G-rail?

It was an epiphany and I was compelled to write it. The information came from that One Source, whatever you choose to call it. My special lover, Lady G, was pivotal also. Without the experiences we shared, our patience, understanding and ability to communicate openly together, we would not have traversed on this journey and the book would not be.

Can you tell me about the books purpose does it mainly focus on improving relationships for married couples or can it be for everyone, who are engaged or single?

The Holy G-rail’s purpose is to open up one’s ability to have fruitful and passionate relations in All-Ways, and in on All-Levels of life. Through the principals outlined within the book, you can gain a wealth of information which helps couples, and/or individuals create a more desirous life; (To be able to experience all of their relationships with a renewed desire and passion, physically, mentally, emotionally and even spiritually).

Does this book empower both men and women to embrace their beauty from within and sexually as well?

Definitely, when I talk about self-love within my book, aside from the masturbation aspects, I give insights and motivation on how individuals can pour love into the areas of one’s self that feel undesirable. “Be able to please and love yourself if you expect to allow someone else to please or share his or her love with you. Learn your own body. See and experience your body in different ways. Once you reach this understanding, you will be pleasured, and be able to accept love more easily from another”

The information within The Holy G-rail, are they based on intuition and experiences you have gone through in life or did you have any support groups or online groups that talked about these issues in the past prior to writing this book?

Years prior to writing the book as far as focus groups and/or support groups go, they were more on a spiritual level, i.e. The Kabbalah, learning healing techniques, psychology, and many aspects which increased my ability to become more receptive to that One source, and also the energies and people which surround me daily. No large sexual/focus groups (I mostly, kept that to myself and my partners… grins) After the epiphany hit me, and when I started writing the book, there were private and intimate focus groups confirming the techniques outlined within the book on the G-spot.

Since the early 80’s Sex Therapist Dr. Ruth’s Wertheimer shows, taught our parents that their kids sexuality was not strange and even though we couldn’t understand why our bodies were changing she was there to help explain what parents were too embarrassed or shy to explain. Examples of some teenage issues are their bodies are changing and they feel weird. Other issues are high school teenager problems such as the girlfriend is not sure her boyfriend loves her because all he wants is sex all the time. Does the Holy G-rail address teenage issues, or is it based on self- help for the more mature generation gap and older couples in their retirement years?

I did not focus on teens, or specific issues related to them. Although I do I believe the Holy G-rail can span all generations. For the younger generations, they can gain insight on how to treat each other with more respect and compassion from the beginning. Thus it will be easier to control the situations they are in and then be able to make the right decision for themselves. Not being forced into a corner, or feeling obligated to perform sexually for love, also being able to gain more Self-Confidence, Respect and Communication skills at an earlier age. It is a great way to start health and strong relations. Now it’s a given that due to the graphic nature of the G-Spot and sexual instruction I would not recommend it for younger teens. As far a middle age or older generations it serves as a reminder of those things that make a relationship work. It also shows how to rekindle, or increase passions that may have been dulled and worn out through tests of time. The G-spot is the hook, yet it takes all the other techniques to get to that divine area and have a healthy and thriving relationship. It is a quest for both young and old alike.

I find that men can be very sensitive and more emotional than women. Does your book address men and women’s emotions, sensuality and sexuality equally?

Throughout the book, when I address these different issues I try not to keep it to one gender alone. I make sure that both genders are addressed with equal vigor. The principals for each sex are basically the same, ie; Relating Anatomy into Lovemaking.

Can The Holy G-rail help both men and women that have been abused and hurt by former partners that are afraid to love and explore for fear of rejection, and hurt?

Through the principals outlined in the chapter on Self-Love, you are taught to love yourself, once you truly love your inner self, it is harder for someone else to destroy that self image. You have to once again learn to love and trust yourself, thus you can become open to receive it from others once again.

And speaking of both men and women being hurt in former relationships how can your book help couples to stop comparing their new relationships to that of their former partners and embrace a fresh approach to the new relationship?

The book teaches you to see and experience in the here and now, and to do this together. If you focus on the past how can you journey into the future? If you put your energy into the techniques outlined you will loose the focus on the past and journey boldly into the future. It’s all about communication, with yourself and your new partner.

One of our fans asked me a question on my social networking site that really sparked and interest on Facebook. The question was “Q: Is there such a thing as love or is it just a fantasy we all have? asked by Michael Faulkner”

Hmmmmm, that’s a good question. I know that through clarified communication and patience, higher levels of love, passion and desire within a relationship can be achieved, even if that bliss started as a fantasy. If you have a vision you must share it, in order to share it you must live the fantasy, thus making it real, It’s all about the experience. LOVE is as real as you make it!

Does the Holy G-rail get into in-depth topics about the differences between fantasy, lust and love?

No, not really, I talk about making fantasies reality, as I mentioned above. When I wrote this book I tried to keep it simple, short and to the point. Yet if you read in-between the lines there is a wealth of information to be gained.

I don’t believe in virtual online relationships, how can one carry on a relationship to some person without ever meeting them in person?

Virtual is Virtual, “almost real.” So I think you’ve answered your own question there. 

Does The Holy G-rail talk about online virtual love any dangers involved or pros and cons with these relationships?

No, I don’t get into that. Here’s the thing, when people are on-line they can make themselves out to be whoever they want to be. Until you meet a person face to face, look into their eyes and experience them on a personal level you can never really know who they are. It’s too easy to embellish one’s-self when you are not in the presence of the other person. This is an area I’d be very aware of and careful within. Personally I think meeting someone on-line and chatting with them could be the beginning of a relationship but only the very beginning, you must see and experience that person in person before love can even come into play. Why waste the time and energy with a virtual relationship when you can go out and have the real thing?

How would a person be confident enough to know it was love at first sight if they were to meet in person?

If it’s someone you have just met without any prior communication… you go by your heart, if you come from a place of love, true love, you can do no wrong. If it does not work out then you can re-evaluate what your goals were, yet know that you came from love and can love again.

What are some of the symptoms’ and signs to distinguish between lusts and love at first sight?

First off, we need to look at the difference between men and women and how they approach the initial impulse to the attraction that they may think they have. Men are very visual thus, some men, (not all), need that initial physical attraction to get involved; this may be considered lust, which then can turn into love. Some women, (not all), need to form an emotional bond first; which allows for the initiation of physical and sexual contact, thus they are more apt to feel that it is love at first sight, whether it is or not. So are there any distinguishing factors? Probably not… “Isn’t that what life is all about? Achieving a wonderful series of quests? Seeking the seemingly unachievable? And finding out in the end, that all your desires can and will be fulfilled.”

How can The Holy G-rail encourage or instill confidence in an individual who is too shy to ask a woman or man for a date?

The Holy G-rail touches base on giving confidence through Self- Love. If you are comfortable within your own skin, naturally your confidence will be lifted. Thus your ego will not be bruised if you are turned down, because you know you are worth it! It’s just a matter of being patient and finding someone who feels the same way you do.

The majority of women think men do not understand what females go through hormonally, emotionally, sensually or sexually, and the majority of men think women don’t understand how they feel or they have no emotion because they don’t show it all the time. Does your book address these common stereotype attitudes both men and women have of each other in their relationship?

Throughout the book I relate the differences between men and women, yet I also show how much we are the same as far as our wants and needs, and sensitivities. It’s all about relations on All-Levels “What might feel good one day, may not the next “So don’t ‘rough’ it out, thinking that you may ruin the moment. Say it softly, and move away slightly. Communicating in this way helps us to adjust to each others passions. Communicate in the moment with love and gentleness.”

Were there any challenges in writing The Holy G-rail such as writing very in-depth detailed topics about a woman’s sensuality, emotions and sexuality?

No challenges really, just a lot of exhausting research! ;)

Now that The Holy G-rail is completed and getting attention worldwide have you thought of coming up with your own syndicated television or radio talk show?

Most definitely! Would love to do both! I have been approached to host my own radio show, just looking for the right fit!

I was amazed by the pieces of passionate masterpieces of fine art paintings on your website at www.holygwear.com , photography and wondered are you into writing poetry?

Thank you for that. I have been an artist for over 20 years. It’s been one of my true loves! I also do photography. All of my works imbue passion and sensuality, for I feel all of life should embrace desire to the fullest. No poetry yet, but it may happen someday.

Are you planning to write any more novels in the future?

Yes I have plans for 4 more novels all centering around the Holy G-rail, which includes a more in depth view of all the chapters I’ve covered briefly in the book. The Holy G-rail is actually the 5th volume, I guess you could say it's like the Stars Wars trilogy, they started with the last movie and went to back to the beginning. (I'm actually looking for a Literary Agent at the moment)

#1 The Holy G-rail Vol 1, “The Road through Self Love”
#2 The Holy G-rail Vol. II “Simplifying the Journey through Clarified Communication”
#3 The Holy G-rail Vol. III “Treading lightly with Patience”
#4.The Holy G-rail Vol. IV “Expanding your Warm-up Techniques”
#5 “Changing the World, One Orgasm at a Time—All Roads Lead to the Holy Grail”


Do you have any upcoming events you wish to announce and will you be attending the NAMM convention in L.A. this year to promote The Holy G-rail?

I have my Holy G, and Holy G Wear, line of clothing which will become more and more sexier and exciting next year. A lot more new clothes will be coming out soon! I also will be doing national seminars around the country the first of the year. My fans are excited about that. I’m also starting to do phone consultations to help people with relationship issues. And I write for Examiner.com. I'm the Denver Sex and Sensuality Examiner. I have a Q&A column, “Ask Michael” I get a lot of very detailed questions on there. People can write me at Michael@holygwear.com with their questions or for information about the phone consultations.
I have heard of the NAMM convention and it sounds interesting, no plans to go this year, but I will have to consider it for next year. Thanks for a great interview! Had a lot of fun! I am “Changing the world, one orgasm at a time!”

*Quotes from the interview are from the Holy G-rail*



Michael Schuessler
www.holygwear.com